My fiance and I have teenage kids, 18 and 20, they heard us having sex, apparently I am extremely loud. Help?

My fiance and I are very deeply in love. We try our hardest to pay attention to our kids going in and out at night when we have sex but sometimes they come home when we least expect. When they are home we are very quiet but when they are not we tend to be loud. How should we handle this knowing that they one of them came home early last night and heard us for the first time?My fiance and I have teenage kids, 18 and 20, they heard us having sex, apparently I am extremely loud. Help?
They are teenagers. They already know. Don't say anything about it, though if they complain/comment, apologize for not being more discreet. Don't apologize for having sex in a loving relationship. It sets a good example.My fiance and I have teenage kids, 18 and 20, they heard us having sex, apparently I am extremely loud. Help?
Well 18 and 20 i bet they already had sex themselves so if i was you i would just deal with it as if nothing happened, don’t go out there and try to explain yourself i guess you would complicate more the things so just act normal, if they ask questions then just think on how would you explain it, it depends on your children and how open you are with them to how will you explain things.





If you already had an open dialogue regarding sex with your children i don’t see any problems, But i can understand that you are embarrassed regarding the situation it's normal. So good luck with it :)
How embarrassing for you! I can imagine how i'd feel if it were me but there's really not much you can do other than try %26amp; be a bit quieter %26amp; more alert to the fact that they might come home at any time.





I wouldn't make a big deal out of it or even bring the subject up to them because they aren't babies %26amp; they know all about sex %26amp; obviously know how in love the 2 of you are %26amp; it's not like you are being loud on purpose, so i think under the circumstances %26amp; given there age if they really hate it then they need to move out.
Tell them you were playing ';noisemaker'; a new game, and in the future, blast BOB SEAGER to cover your noise. They will know the answer is wrong, but then you can all just avoid the issue. I think they are old enough to only be slightly unnerved for a while - they are not 8 and they did not SEE you - so i am thinking maybe it's ok? OR did they NOT know you were ';doing it';? If THAT is the case, then i guess you have to explain your age and impending marriage or whatever. Otherwise, if they know you do it, well....





Best to let them vomit it out for a while and move on. That would be my coward's way anyway.





On the other hand, if you are telling them not to have sex outside of marriage (which i would be doing, AND which i practice myself anyway) then it is a harder conversation - and in that case why are you even having sex? You are not married - see the problem? Well, GOOD LUCK NOW.
Urr in this country at 18 you are an adult. Have you had that talk about the birds and the bees with them yet?. After that you talk to them about relationships - intimacy (talking) , commitment (staying with one partner) and passion (sex). Next you introduce the family concept with the people in it including the parent figures as real people i.e. yourselves.
18 and 20 are young adults.... what are they doing still living in your home.





When you turn 18 you either go to college, go join the military, or go get a job..... It doesn't matter which you do... but the KEY is the word ';GO';..... you've done your part to raise them... its time they did their part.





At their age, you have done enough to have earned the right to have sex in the middle of the living room while hanging from a chandalier at 2 in the afternoon if you want... if they walk into it... its their problem, not yours.





Put your foot down and tell them how its going to be.... its your house and if you want to take it in the doo-doo hole on the kitchen table while they are eating dinner, you are going to take it in the doo-doo hole on the kitchen table while they are watching dinner.... If they don't like it, they can get their own place and their own kitchen table.
Well, if they're both adults, then they know about sex and stuff, right? Ok, then it isn't as bad as like a 6 year old hearing, but I can still understand why you wouldn't want them to hear you. Try not moaning as much, no matter how good it feels (this could also help you get an orgasm!). Anyways, maybe taking a shower together would be a better idea, like shower sex. Shower sex is usually much more quiet. Good luck to you and your husband!
They're grown ups. They really should be able to deal with the fact that their mum is in a happy, fulfilling relationship, and that includes sex. If they don't like it, they can just turn around and leave for another hour or two. You two being quiet when you know they are there is consideration enough. You're also entitled to enjoy yourself in your own house.
Hopefully that one gets the hint and moves out. The older they get the louder you should get. It'll give them a little bit more motivation to go out and become independent.





If they're not out by 25 the both of you should become nudists at home. They'll be out within a few days.
uh, they're 18 and 20. if they don't like hearing you and your fiancee have sex, they can get jobs and get the hell out. they're grown, woman!! it's not like trying to be quiet because they're little kids and hearing you two being amorous will warp their fragile little minds.
They are teenager and i'm sure they understand all this stuff about sex, just ask them if they heard anything , or try to be quiet all the time, or ask them to tell you if they are coming home early so that you'll know when to be loud.
So what is your problem ?? They aren't kids, they're both adults.


Hopefully having more sex than you are.


Ignore it, and just carry on, pretend you didn't even hear them.


Did they catch you having it off on the sofa ?


I bet you are more embarrassed than them.
that's quite funny. i'm 17 and it would indeed make me feel quite sick. maybe now they know tell next time they go out say ';what time are you coming back?'; and then say ';ok well make sure you DONT come home any sooner...'; and they should understand what you mean.
18 and 20?


Why aren't they out of the house yet?


Tell them to get a job, kick them out, and then you can have all the loud sex you want
They should be mature enough at those ages to understand that sex is a natural human urge/necessity.





On a side note, youve got one lucky husband!
If they are that old I don't see why it's a problem.... it's no secret what you guys are doing anyways behind closed doors....... i would try to be careful but you shouldn't worry about it that much.
Haa. ';Son, i still have it in me.'; ;)


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Haha.


Just tell them it's life!


Damn, its not that hard!!!
ohh dear. as a 19 year old, i cant think of anything worse! id put music on or something to drown the sound out. just ignore it, and never ever speak of your sex life to your children!
Your kids are 18 and 20. They are probably having sex themselves. It is your house and they should respect you. they could call when they are coming home or they can move out.
there old enough to know what your doing and they r probably just as embarrassed as u so just leave it b and b quieter next time
They're adults, they can handle it. If they can't, then they can move out.
That's just unlucky. Maybe you should try and not be so loud.
control yourselves!
They're 18 and 20 I think they're mature enough to handle it
They are 18 and 20 years old. They know people have sex and can get loud. Don't worry about it, they'll live.
Why aren't you married like I am to Rhod?.
Well, their 18 and 20, so they should understand. It's your house= your rules.
LOL Relax. They are old enough to understand
Tell them to get jobs and get out if they don't like it. When i was 17 i was on my own.
Uhm. I have a 7 month old. Her crib is in our room. We're just quiet. You don't HAVE to be loud. I used to be, then I turned into a mother. Time to shush.
oh no... keep it quiet all the time. if you want to try to talk about it to your kid feel free but is gonna be way awkward.